I
read two articles and two videos about socialization of male and
female.
First
of all, I watched “ a call to men” by Tony porter. It was a very
interesting speech and very important call to men and parents who
have sons.
Tony
Porter insisted that men shouldn't act like a ideal man which was
told in their process of being socialized as a man. He called the
manliness “ Men Box” which is ideal behaviors and mind ,such as
don not be like a women, do not show weakness of fear.
Tony
also claimed that these men who act like a men based on their
experiences of manly action in their lives are mostly disrespectful
and abuse their power to women and other people.
The
solution to all men is that they shouldn't rely of the concept of
men.
The
second video “ killing us softly” talks abut the influence of ads
on how women should look.
Today,
ads shows everywhere, whenever we are. The number of ads are
enormously increasing compared to the past. These media's primary
purpose is to sell products but also sell values, image , concept of
love, sexuality etc... Morever, they tell us who we are, who we
should be.
The
issue of media here is about depiction of women. They tell women how
they look. The outcomes of these ideas of women led them to spend
tons of money to achieve the ideal figures. Sometimes these ideas
make women depressed when they failed the achievements.
Today,
there is issue that American young women have a eating disorder to
succeed a diet. She thinks that high rate of young pregnancy is also
affected by ads which tell young girls that sex makes them cute. She
says that the concepts of being women, family, men, girls and boys
shoudn't rely on ads but ourselves.
I
can find some relation between these two videos and chpter 6. first
of all, Tony Porter said that the concept of men which is taken for
granted influence on raising boys. The textbook also mentions that we
can see some differences of the way of raising kids between boys and
girls. On the process of being socialized as a boys and girls, we are
told by parents that boys should be strong, don't cry, also girls
should dress skirts not pants or talks like a girl. But what is like
a girl? I think even if we ask parents about that, they might say
that's what they are also told by their parents.
As
killing us softly mentions about the power of media to people and
especially women, influences of media are nowadays very strong to
people. The textbook says that media play an increasingly significant
role in the lives of many young people, especially in industrialized
nations. On average, U.S. Children between the ages of 8 and 18 spend
more than seven and a half hours each day with media outside of
school. This is more time than they spend in the school. The reality
can explain the claim of killing us softly that young people act what
the ads say nowadays.
The
reading assignment “ Retro wife” mainly talks about the role of
women in the society. And how each woman feels about the concept of
being women and mother. I can connect this reading and killing us
softly by media. Retro wife's character quit her job to be a house
wife and a mother. Meantime man who is husband and father works
outside of house. The concept was a norm in the past few years. We
could see the reality by the dramas about family or ads of products
for family. We catch these medias and think that is norms.
The
reading Parents' socialization of children talks about the way of
being parents and how the social class affect to children' education.
Parents socialization is very important to raise their kids. Because
kids are socialized by what parents teach them. Like Tony Porter
says, he had different way of talking when his daughter and son
cried. I thought when parents raised their kids, parents is most
likely to be authoritative to girls, and authoritarian to boys.
I
was socialized as a girl, daughter, students and worker until now.
The concepts of each of them come from many ways like the textbook
explains. I think we should not rely on the concepts what other
people or ads say in oder to have more originalities.
I used to play with Barbie dolls with my female friends. I wanted to dress up like Barbie does. Barbie represents the ways that girls are socialized.
