Socialization

    I read two articles and two videos about socialization of male and female.

First of all, I watched “ a call to men” by Tony porter. It was a very interesting speech and very important call to men and parents who have sons.

Tony Porter insisted that men shouldn't act like a ideal man which was told in their process of being socialized as a man. He called the manliness “ Men Box” which is ideal behaviors and mind ,such as don not be like a women, do not show weakness of fear.

  Tony also claimed that these men who act like a men based on their experiences of manly action in their lives are mostly disrespectful and abuse their power to women and other people.

The solution to all men is that they shouldn't rely of the concept of men.

   The second video “ killing us softly” talks abut the influence of ads on how women should look.

Today, ads shows everywhere, whenever we are. The number of ads are enormously increasing compared to the past. These media's primary purpose is to sell products but also sell values, image , concept of love, sexuality etc... Morever, they tell us who we are, who we should be.

   The issue of media here is about depiction of women. They tell women how they look. The outcomes of these ideas of women led them to spend tons of money to achieve the ideal figures. Sometimes these ideas make women depressed when they failed the achievements.

Today, there is issue that American young women have a eating disorder to succeed a diet. She thinks that high rate of young pregnancy is also affected by ads which tell young girls that sex makes them cute. She says that the concepts of being women, family, men, girls and boys shoudn't rely on ads but ourselves.

    I can find some relation between these two videos and chpter 6. first of all, Tony Porter said that the concept of men which is taken for granted influence on raising boys. The textbook also mentions that we can see some differences of the way of raising kids between boys and girls. On the process of being socialized as a boys and girls, we are told by parents that boys should be strong, don't cry, also girls should dress skirts not pants or talks like a girl. But what is like a girl? I think even if we ask parents about that, they might say that's what they are also told by their parents.

   As killing us softly mentions about the power of media to people and especially women, influences of media are nowadays very strong to people. The textbook says that media play an increasingly significant role in the lives of many young people, especially in industrialized nations. On average, U.S. Children between the ages of 8 and 18 spend more than seven and a half hours each day with media outside of school. This is more time than they spend in the school. The reality can explain the claim of killing us softly that young people act what the ads say nowadays.

    The reading assignment “ Retro wife” mainly talks about the role of women in the society. And how each woman feels about the concept of being women and mother. I can connect this reading and killing us softly by media. Retro wife's character quit her job to be a house wife and a mother. Meantime man who is husband and father works outside of house. The concept was a norm in the past few years. We could see the reality by the dramas about family or ads of products for family. We catch these medias and think that is norms.

    The reading Parents' socialization of children talks about the way of being parents and how the social class affect to children' education. Parents socialization is very important to raise their kids. Because kids are socialized by what parents teach them. Like Tony Porter says, he had different way of talking when his daughter and son cried. I thought when parents raised their kids, parents is most likely to be authoritative to girls, and authoritarian to boys.

    

    I was socialized as a girl, daughter, students and worker until now. The concepts of each of them come from many ways like the textbook explains. I think we should not rely on the concepts what other people or ads say in oder to have more originalities.

I used to play with Barbie dolls with my female friends. I wanted to dress up like Barbie does. Barbie represents the ways that girls are socialized.